Setting Boundaries for Success: How to Achieve Your Goals Without Burning Out
Setting Boundaries
Exhaustion, frustration, and under-valued may be just some of the things that you feel when a person or situation may have violated your territory. By setting clear and meaningful boundaries for yourself, you will gain confidence and limit unwanted situations.
You are a kind person and you generally want others to know that you appreciate them, but you constantly find yourself giving up your voice, your time and your mental, physical and emotional energy in an effort to please others. You experience your energy being sucked right out of you just because you initially gave a little bit of your yourself to someone out of kindness or you held back expressing your views to avoid conflict and confrontation.
When you expose a defenseless side of you, many will begin to expect more from you or try to take more than what you
are willing to give. As a result you begin to compromise your well-being.
SIGNS THAT YOU ARE LACKING BOUNDARIES FOR YOURSELF
When you don’t set boundaries, many times you begin to exhibit avoidance behaviours:
Ghost certain people or groups. You cease all communication without any sort of reasoning.
Make excuses to avoid telling certain people what you feel or that you don’t have the time to be in their company.
Isolate yourself in certain situations by keeping yourself ‘busy’ or occupied.
Anxiety comes from a place of worry that you have let others down; therefore, you make partial eye contact and give little verbal cues.
Frustration towards your friends and family. You may lash out those that are close to you because you are avoiding confronting those that drain you.
WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO SET BOUNDARIES
In short, it’s good for your subjective well-being. By setting boundaries, you’re sending out a strong message about how you value and honour yourself. You are protecting your energy from leaking and keeping yourself from feeling drained.
When you don’t set boundaries or set loose ones, you become an open ground for every type of situation and people to come onto ‘your land’ and violate your space. Having boundaries will help attract more of what you’re aligned with and restrict that of which appears toxic to you.
